Ravi Zacharias talks some on this:
If we just glut ourself on pleasure, we are not demonstrating sacredness, reverence, or thankfulness. By establishing boundaries on human behavior, we demonstrate sacredness, holiness, reverence, and thankfulness. You cannot experience joy and happiness without sacred and reverent thankfullness.
Thankfullness = happiness. Can you be thankful and not happy? If you never establish boundaries, you can never satisfy the boundless desire. Wickedness never was happiness.
But boundless desire may not be why some LDS men occasionally look at or use porn. Porn is always wrong, but there is very real and understandable male physiology involved that never seems to enter into the discussion (sorry, not romantic). I think the world really misses the boat on this issue.
Romance seems to mean that whatever is happening is all about the woman. Truth is, sex should be unselfish on both sides and not one-sided. Despite the most perfect unselfishness, you can’t deny the physiological realities without disasterious consequences (eg celibate priests). 1. women typically take longer 2. once activated, men have a more steady even potentially unpleasant desire because of more steady seamen production vs. unsteadiness of life, partner mood and energy levels. (ie “I can’t believe you feel the way you do while I am feeling the way I do”).
Our experience can also be different. The female brain may respond like stimulant (pure high), whereas the male brain may experience things like heroin (deeper low). The male experience may involve more relief, which may account for male temdancy toward addiction. I’m not excusing any behavior, I’m just explaining the possible reality and consequence of physiology (different experience). This may explain why males tend to be capable of such evil in this regard.
So, both sides should be selfless, respectful, but mindful of physiologic realities. It does no good to expect one parter or the other to act 100% contrary to the physiologic realities nor be a slave to them. Women take longer, and men experience more steady desire. We need to embrace these physiologic realities or needlessly suffer continual misunderstandings, disappointments, and conflict. There is a way for both sides to be unselfish here.